Friday, March 29, 2013

Gay and Opposed to Gay Marriage

Just read a really great article by Doug Mainwaring entitled, I'm Gay and I Oppose Gay Marriage. The author does a proper, succinct job of explaining how gay marriage hurts children, which is the reason I keep writing and talking about the dangers inherent in the idea. I am a mother. I adore children and see that life is hard enough these days without stacking the deck against them. It's time we adults put our selfishness aside. For the children's sake.

"Same-sex marriage will undefine marriage and unravel it, and in so doing, it will undefine children. It will ultimately lead to undefining humanity. This is neither “progressive” nor “conservative” legislation. It is “regressive” legislation." ~~quote from above named article

Without further ado, I leave you to clicking on the above link so as to allow your mind to ponder the many useful points made by Mr.

Be brave. Feed your mind.

And I hope you have a wonderful day.


flask said...

the reason the deck is stacked against the children of gay parents is that small minded bigots whose somehow think they have standing to determine the shape of other people's lives keep stacking that deck.

oh, no! life is harder for you and your kids because we made rules that make it harder for you and your kids! therefore because it's harder, you may not have equal rights to protect the families you already have.

i sat in a waiting room once and listened to some backward thinking hatwipes declare that children would be better off in foster carre or even in orphanages or dead than to have been raised by gays.

your arguments are nto only spurious, but they are only based on an irrational hate.

i do not approve of drug use or bigotry or religious cults, but nobody is talking about denying basic human rights to people who engage in them.

are you really that small that you want to tear apart families already in existence? neither of my mothers needed your permission to be a family, but apparently they need your permission to receive basic legal rights that are given every other citizen in the country.

,r. mainwaring's points are only useful if one wishes to hold onto antiquated, harmful, petty ideas and still somehow feel good about it.

Cherie said...

Flask, please point out to me specifically where I stated that I want to tear apart families already in existence? That opinion is not held by me and I don't believe it's in any of the articles to which I've referred.

Spurious? Hate? Really?

I appreciate Mr. Mainwaring's comparison between chess and checker games. I think he's right. This issue requires calmness, and "thought about the intended and unintentional consequences of every single move that may or may not be made."

Reactive name calling, baseless judging, sarcasm, and finger-wagging do not help.

I'm sorry that the point of view I espouse upsets you so. Really. Your rational intelligent consideration is what I'd rather engage.

The point of view you seem to hold is one that asks of people to shut off their normal human sympathies by declaring that to purposefully create or adopt a child who will be denied his basic right to a father or mother is in line with what is best for the child. It is not best. For people to intentionally choose that for a child - to even create a child with that in mind - is not in the best interests of the child. It is selfishness.

I repeat, we, who disagree with you, are expected to shut off our normal human sympathies toward children.

I'm sure that being raised with same-sex parents can be a life of love, protection, laughter, and great care. However, it is a life subject to social awkwardness (like it or not), a life deprived of the important influence of either father or mother which is stunting (like it or not), and a life that leaves a person subject to feeling disconnected and lost because of being yanked away from one or both family lineage(s) to which they belong and have a right to which includes the passing down of traditions, family history, a place in the family's historical chain, and more.

Flask, this is a reasonable argument.