Poise is the art of raising the eyebrows instead of raising the roof.
I learned that little bit of whatever-you-want-to-call-it when I was in college.
I practice it now and then.
Today, for example, I accidentally discovered that for months a 'friend' has been shamelessly using me as a stepping stone to try to further herself. In her insecurity she succumbs to the ploy of attempting to tear me down to build herself up after she has allowed me to open doors for her.
Decades ago I would have been wounded to the quick and angered. Today, the eyebrows lift. It still hurts, but not to the tender interior of my being. No anger boils within.
So, I guess this is a chance for me to see that, hmmm, maybe there has been some growth in the old girl - me - after all.
Not anything to brag about. But a little encouragement goes a long way.
To you, my faux friend, I utter a sincere Thank You. Though your intentions are selfish and unkind, in the end it has done me good. I'm sorry that fears assail you. I wish you strength to see that there is a higher way to exist, and it is available to you.