Wednesday, May 30, 2007

Heart Gardens

We cut down a couple of trees a few months ago leaving circles of just plain, unplanted, brown dirt.

While we have taken our time deciding what we wanted to plant in the vacant soil, huge weeds have moved in. Not just a couple of big weeds either, but several, and all different types. A potpourri of weeds you could say.

We uprooted living things and never replaced them. The void left fertile spaces - for opportunistic weeds.

We know a sweet mid-teenage girl who is from a broken home, left to fend for herself for large chunks of each day. Lately, preoccupied with their own separate romantic pursuits, the adults in her life have been neglecting her, creating a gigantic void within her tender heart.

She has changed. Too quickly. The parental wisdom which has always guided her, the nurturing, the watchful attention, have been removed, leaving a certain emptiness. Just as fertile soils don't remain barren, but avail themselves to whatever comes along, wanted or unwanted, so our friend's careful upbringing has been replaced with, well, weeds. Drinking, parties, sexy stuff, vanity, mindlessness, illusions, dreamlessness, and lemming-like crowd-pleasing. She's headed straight for a cliff.

A good object lesson, sure, but a life off-track nevertheless.

It's hard to watch.

I'm going to dig up our weeds and plant something pretty in the dirt. Hopefully someone will garden the thirsty heart of our young friend, as well. Maybe we'll be privileged to help.

God knows all of our hearts can benefit from a little creative gardening now and then.

7 comments:

Elizabeth said...

IT IS PAINFUL TO WATCH, an outsider...wondering if there may be some opportunity to be the sower/gardener.

Cherie said...

Yes, Lizza, sure is.

Anonymous said...

There is a gap between "being a normal teenager" and what you are describing here. Experimenting is one thing when there's a solid base to return to. Trying to fill a void with destructive behavior without that base can lead to years even a lifetime of pain and sadness. I am sorry for your friend. I hope her parents get a clue before it is too late. You help by caring and being there. Bless you!

tshsmom said...

We've mentored several children like the one you described. Sometimes we make a difference; sometimes we don't. Will we try again? ABSOLUTELY!
It's a lot like rescuing a drowning person. Sometimes they relax and let you float them to safety. Sometimes they panic and drag you down with them. Either way, we can't just stand there and watch them drown.

Cherie said...

You are right again, tshs. Such a kind heart you have. An excellent heart gardener, I'm certain of that. And yes, can't just stand there and watch them drown. Your drowning metaphor is right on. Thanks for the encouragement. I'll pass it on to my kids.

tshsmom said...

L and I are suckers for kids! ;)
The number of neglected kids we've known disgusts me. WHY do people have kids if they don't want to invest the time in them?!

Cherie said...

THAT, tshs, is the question.

We've known way too many neglected kids also. It's just heartbreaking. We do what we can, huh, and love our kids all the more.